Hold Me Tight Quiz

Session I: The A.R.E. Questionnaire
(Accessibility, Responsiveness, Engagement)



From your viewpoint, is your partner accessible to you?

1.) I can get my partner’s attention easily.

TrueFalse

2.) My partner is easy to connect with emotionally.

TrueFalse

3.) My partner shows me that I come first with him/her.

TrueFalse

4.) I am not feeling lonely or shut out in this relationship.

TrueFalse

5.) I can share my deepest feelings with my partner. He/she will listen.

TrueFalse

From your viewpoint, is your partner responsive to you?

1.) If I need connection and comfort, he/she will be there for me.

TrueFalse

2.) My partner responds to signals that I need him/her to come close.

TrueFalse

3.) I find I can lean on my partner when I am anxious or unsure.

TrueFalse

4.) Even when we fight or disagree, I know that I am important to my partner and we will find a way to come together.

TrueFalse

5.) If I need reassurance about how important I am to my partner, I can get it.

TrueFalse

Are you positively emotionally engaged with each other?

1.) I feel very comfortable being close to, trusting my partner.

TrueFalse

2.) I can confide in my partner about almost anything.

TrueFalse

3.) I feel confident, even when we are apart, that we are connected to each other.

TrueFalse

4.) I know that my partner cares about my joys, hurts, and fears.

TrueFalse

5.) I feel safe enough to take emotional risks with my partner.

TrueFalse

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© 2010 Dr. Sue Johnson

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