Book Review – Mel Robbins
The Five Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work and Confidence with Everyday Courage.
by Mel Robbins
The principle is simple. The author says it takes about five seconds from the time you think of doing something, making a change, like exercising, trying a new food, wanting to do writing and so on to the time you talk yourself out of it. Our minds have a hard time with change.
There is a story behind how she came up with the 5 second rule, but essentially when you notice yourself wanting to hesitate, avoid, procrastinate on something you know will be beneficial, you do the countdown “5-4-3-2 -1 Go” and then do it, even if you have fear or really don’t want to or don’t feel like it. This quick count moves us in the direction we want to go. It circumvents the mind’s ability to not have us do new or challenging things. There are chapters in the book that address how to use the rule, how to increase productivity, end procrastination, reduce anxiety and fear and building confidence.
I found it helpful that she said “you’re never going to feel like doing it”. Many things in our lives have to be done whether or not we like to or want to do them. This is a handy tool for motivating yourself to get back your own tendency to not do things. While it is a very quick tool to use, like most things, consistent application of such a tool over time is what will get the results.
Here’s what the author says on her website, “The moment you feel yourself hesitate (when you know you should do something) start counting backward 5-4-3-2-1, then GO. The Rule is a proven form of metacognition. When you use it, you shift mental gears, interrupt your habit of overthinking and awaken your pre-frontal cortex – making change easy. The rule acts as a “starting ritual” that breaks bad habits and triggers positive new behavior change”.